04 Feb 2014 Comments Off on A Better Way to Say “I Miss You”
There was a time in my life when I was separated from someone I loved because he had to do military duty in Iraq. We were able to text and send letters and occasionally we even spoke on the phone. Inevitably we said, “I miss you.”
I began to notice that “I miss you” left me feeling lonely and helpless. I thought about what, specifically, I missed about him, and I made a list. I miss your smile. I miss your laugh. I miss seeing your face. I miss just driving around in the car with you. I miss holding hands. I miss doing your laundry. I miss you running errands for me. I miss sharing meals together. I miss being close, being able to hug.
Then inspiration struck and I “translated” my list:
I wish I could see your smiling face right now.
I wish I could see you burst out laughing.
I wish we were driving in the car right now.
I wish we were doing chores together.
I wish we were on the beach together.
I wish we were eating dinner together.
I wish we were holding hands and could hug each other.
I had turned “miss” into “wish.” Then I was moved to “translate” again:
I am imagining you smiling at me right now.
I am seeing you laugh out loud with happiness that you’re back home.
I am hearing your laugh and feeling my heart expand with the pleasure your laugh gives me.
I am remembering driving around in the car together, singing along to the radio.
I am feeling happy and there’s a smile on my face as I think about us driving and singing!
I am feeling close to you, heart to heart, no matter how many miles are between us.
I had gone from “I miss” to “I wish” to “I am.” When we speak in the present tense, using the words “I am,” we activate our Being. “I am” ignites a creative power within ourselves that is tremendously healing and nurturing. When we use this technique of translation we learn to soothe ourselves and maintain connection with our loved ones, no matter where they are. A Course in Miracles teaches us that, “Your mind can be possessed by illusions, but spirit is eternally free.” On a human level, missing someone is feeling deprived of their company. But when we become aware that love is eternal, then whether someone is in front of us or seemingly distant, the love lives forever in our hearts.
So start with the genuine feeling of “I miss you” and make a list. Then translate your list into what you wish. Next, choose to be in the present moment with “I am” sentence constructions. Stay connected with the person you miss and actually build your relationship through specific examples of what you love about being together. This positive appreciation actually brings you closer, builds trust and intimacy, and will surprise you with how much easier it is to be parted, whether for a day, a week, or even facing a death. Love is an eternal bond which can never be broken. Try this better way of saying, “I miss you” and let me know how it goes by emailing me at email@example.com
If you enjoyed this article, read Gatita Sparkles which is about how you can never lose your loved ones because death is not really real. And you may find these articles truly helpful also: Gatita’s Metamorphosis Into The Lady, and This Is the Best Moment of Your Life.
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